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How To Stop Worrying | Stoicism | Marcus Aurelius

Hello there. nice to see you again.

You know what? There is a great piece of news for you. You can now stop worrying. Really? how? well, you know it already.

Can’t remember how? Don’t worry again! Here’s stoicism to your rescue. You might wonder what stoicism is?

Stoicism is an ancient Greek philosophy which teaches the development of self-control and fortitude as a means of overcoming destructive emotions

Being stoic is being calm and almost without any emotion. When you’re stoic, you don’t show what you’re feeling and you also accept whatever is happening. The noun stoic is a person who’s not very emotional.

The best example of a stoic person is the great king, the second century CE Roman emperor, Marcus Aurelius.

Now let’s understand how we can stop worrying and on the way, you’ll know why I mentioned Marcus Aurelius.

There are mainly 5 ways in which you can start worrying less or completely stop worrying.

1.Ignore the noise:

noise

  • What is this noise? The stupid opinions of irrelevant people, the media, social media, and the approval of others.
  • Ignore the noises. Those are called as noises for a reason because they disturb. Today’s, Modern world is corrupt in every way possible. Think about it, why is there such a less number of geniuses. Is it because today’s generation is dumb? or less creative?
  • Is there any shortage of extraordinary skillsets in today’s generation? well depends on how you think. So, think in this way too. why do we always worry much, and because of which we become sad?
  • The simple answer to this question is because people don’t listen to their choice and end up making decisions based on people’s stupid opinions.
  • For example, assume you lost a job recently. What is the first thought that comes to your mind what am I going to do next or what will the society say if they get to know that I am jobless?
  • This is because of our innate desire to be liked by everyone. So we constantly seek for their approval without realizing how much this people-pleasing attitude sabotages our self-confidence and contributes to our worries.
  • The more we desire the approval of others, the more we become a slave to others.
  • Remember, there will always be people who will criticize you, reject you because they hate you or they are jealous of you. They will think what they think and say what they want to say. It’s your choice to follow what is right.
  • This pandemic has disturbed our thinking and people have become negative and are under constant stress about losing their jobs or lives.
  • Start taking risks and start doing what you love. I promise you will struggle a bit at the start but you will be happy like a child forever.
  • I highly recommend you guys read the book ‘IKIGAI’ by Hector Garcia and Albert Liebermann.(comment down if you want me to make a book review on Ikigai)
  • Shut down the media, social media, and start taking care of yourself.
  • Start focussing on your forgotten hobbies or call your long lost friend.
  • Note this-‘your inner voice can shut the outer noise’.
  • So stop worrying and start living.

2. Everything is just history repeating itself.

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“No matter what happens, keep this in mind: It’s the same old thing, from one end of the world to the other. It fills the history books, ancient and modern, and the cities, and the houses too.Nothing new at all”
-Marcus Aurelius
  • I mentioned something about the pandemic in the previous point. People have been facing a pandemic since time immemorial.
  • Some of us are in areas that have already been affected by a coronavirus. Others are bracing for what may come and all of us are watching the headlines and wondering, “What is going to happen next?
  • We don’t know how exactly we’ll be impacted or how bad things might get and that makes it all too easy to catastrophize and spiral out into overwhelming worry and panic.
  •  Marcus Aurelius tells life is simply history repeating itself. If you are worried about losing your job, losing your money, and your partner leaving you, millions of others have gone through in the past and are going through the things you are worried about right now
  • This means that we experience the same pattern of life over and over again just with different formats and with different characters. He tells us whatever is happening today, has already happened before.
  • If the world is facing crises today, the world has also faced similar crises like that in the past such as black death, sars, Spanish flu, ebola, and indeed the Antonine plague.
  • But according to Aurelius, it is just life manifesting the same patterns. History has taught us that this pattern of life never changes as long as we live.
  • Everything is momentary and nothing is truly novel. So why do we worry so much when it’s just life repeating itself again and again?
  • Worry is what happens when your mind dwells on negative thoughts, uncertain outcomes, or things that could go wrong. When we think about an uncertain or unpleasant situation – such as being unable to pay the rent or doing badly on an exam – our brains become stimulated.
  • When we worry, it calms our brains down and is also likely to cause us to problem-solve take action. In a way, worrying is a way for your brain to handle problems to keep you safe.
  • Hence worries, doubts, and anxieties are a normal part of life and while it’s natural to worry about an unpaid bill, an upcoming job interview, or a first date, normal worrying becomes excessive when it’s persistent and uncontrollable
  • .We constantly worry every day about these “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios”.We don’t let these anxious thoughts get out of our head and let negative thinking, and always expecting the worst take a heavy toll on our emotional and physical health.
  • We need to understand that whatever it is that we are worrying about, in reality, it has happened before. What seems to be uncomfortable and scary now, will soon be old and familiar tomorrow.
  • So instead of worrying too much, try to keep your calm because we humans are adaptable creatures and we have a unique capacity to change along with the ever-changing pattern of life.
  • So stop worrying and start living.

3.Practice mindfulness.

mindfullness

  • Practice mindfulness Marcus Aurelius reminds us “Remind yourself that it is not the future or what has passed that afflicts you, but always the present.”
  • Stoic mindfulness is really about seeing what is up to you in any given situation, focus on doing that well, and on doing the act with kindness towards others. Instead of fearing the worst possible outcome about the future, mindfulness means concentrating on your present and making the most of it.
  • So if you are worried about your partner leaving you, being mindful about it will make you aware of the problems you are facing with your partner so that you can work towards solving them and hopefully avoid the worst outcome.
  • While worrying leads you to fear and panic, with mindfulness, you are more likely to get into “the zone” or “flow,” so that you can complete your work more efficiently and as you have a greater sense of well-being, you will be less stressed.
  • Mindfulness might even make you appreciate your partner and the relationship you both share.
  • You can start being mindful by being conscious about your eating habits, by going for a walk, by avoiding multitasking at your work or by meditating. Start with about 5 to 10 minutes per day and work your way up to about 20 minutes or longer.
  • The idea is to give your mind a rest from the constant sensory stimulation of all your activities, and just allow it to settle down naturally.
  • Particularly now, in 2020 our situation is one of extreme uncertainty. We don’t know what will happen, how long it will last, or what things will be like when it’s over.
  • One thing we do know, however, is that worrying about it won’t change the outcome and right now much of the personal time that used to be part of our daily routines – commutes, time alone at home, going to the store just is not available.
  • This means it’s extra important to practice mindfulness to recharge. You can decide to set time aside each day to practice mindful activities in the morning before everyone is awake, it can be a great time to ground yourself.
  • Morning mindfulness can help set the tone for the day. Do deep breathing, meditate, exercise, whatever mindfulness activity works for you.
  • So stop worrying and start living.

4. Serve yourself.

serve yourself

  • This point simply means to care about your hobbies, interests and of course yourself.
  • There’s nothing much to elaborate in this point because all you have to do is enjoy doing what you love.
  • Encourage self-love just like BTS.
  • So stop worrying and start living.

5. Serve Others.

serve others

  • Helping others is one way of lessening the worries of a different individual.
  • Serving others not necessarily mean giving money to the charity when you, yourself need money.
  • Some of us so busy that we don’t have time to serve others through actions.
  • But it can be as simple as being kind to one another or just being humble.
  • So stop worrying and start living.

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I hope this will help you. Please share this post, if you feel its worth sharing. Thanks, for reading. See you soon.

 

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How To Stop Worrying | Stoicism | Marcus Aurelius
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Unnecessary worry is worthless. Stop worrying and learn how to stop worrying in 5 ways.
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